Just like a coin has 2 sides - heads and tails - there are 2 different components that are virutally inseperable, which are sex and relationship.
Or, said another, sex is intended to occur within the context of relaitonship, and this leads to a very important and undeniable reality, which implicates the importance of healthy relaitonship.
Or, said another way, the healthier and more funcitonal the relationship is , the healthier and more funcitonal the sex will be that occurs within the context of that relationship.
But there's another very important and undenial reality, which is the truth that relationship can be very challenging and difficult.
What often happens in the context of relationship is what Tony is calling in this episode, the "X".
The "X" is not good.
The "X" is hard.
The "X" is a disagrement, a difficulty, a tension, a fight, an argument, or a misunderstanding.
And the reality is that every couple is going to experience, not just one "X" in their relationship, but many different "X's" over time.
And therefore a very important question emerges, which is implicates the title of today's episode:
What do we do with the "X's" when they show up in our relationship?
In this episode Tony advocates that there are only 5 options on how to deal with the "X", and he shares those 5 options.
Of the 5 options, there's one that's the recommended and outstanding option that can and will lead to the possibly of traversing the "X" in a healhty and productive way.
Learn to deal with your "X's" in a better way, and that will lead to a healthier and more functional relationship, which will in turn create the environment that makes healthier and more functional sex possible!