Jay Stringer is a licensed mental health counselor, ordained minister, and nationally requested speaker on the subject of unwanted sexual behavior (i.e., extra-marital affairs, pornography, buying sex, and others).
Based in Seattle, Jay has spent the last decade on the frontlines of demand for sexual exploitation and pornography. Jay’s clinical work guides men and women to find freedom from unwanted sexual behavior through inviting them to identify the unique reasons that bring them to it. In addition to his therapy practice and frequent speaking engagements, Jay is also a lecturer for the City of Seattle’s “john school,” a program designed for men who have been arrested for soliciting prostitution.
Jay Stringer’s first book, Unwanted: How Sexual Brokenness Reveals Our Way to Healing, is based on a multiyear research project into the stories of 3,800 men and women to address the key drivers of unwanted sexual behavior, why people remain in a place of shame, and the journey towards a new sexual story.
Jay holds an MDiv and master in counseling psychology from the Seattle School of Theology and Psychology and received post-graduate training under Dr. Patrick Carnes and Dr. Dan Allender while serving as a Senior Fellow at the Allender Center.
In this episode and the next, Tony and Jay discuss... among other topics...
(1) how people end up in sexual addiction
(2) why they stay in their sexual addiction
(3) how to get out of sexual addiction
Be blessed as you listen to this important interview with Jay Stringer!
Michael Leahy is an expert in the areas of pornography, sexual addiction, and recovery... and he's the Founder & CEO of BRAVEHEARTS... which is a faith based, mentoring centric ministry.
Prior to founding BRAVEHEARTS, Michael spent twenty years in sales and sales management positions with technology firms such as IBM, Unisys and NEC. But then his thirty-year relationship with pornography escalated into a full-blown sexual addiction that eventually cost him his marriage and family, a business partnership, countless relationships, and his reputation.
When Michael finally hit rock bottom, and was preparing to put a pistol in his mouth to end it all, he was trying to figure out what to say to his sons in the suicide note that he would leave behind. It was only then he was shocked to realize the enormous price that pornography and sexual addiction had extracted from his life.
That dark place helped him realize his desperate need for God, and he then began the difficult but redemptive process of his healing journey.
Eventually Michael founded BRAVEHEARTS, which is a faith-based non-profit organization whose mission is to lead people from sexual brokenness and sexual addiction to freedom in Christ.
Michael has written 5 books, including... Porn Nation - Conquering America's # 1 Addiction... and has made many media appearances as an expert on the issues of pornography, sexual addiction, and recovery, including 20/20, The View, CNN, CNBC, the BBC, and The 700 Club.
Michael's story is another amazing example of the powerful grace, mercy, and redemption of God!
You shall know the truth, and the truth shall set you free. John 8:32
Michael Leahy is an expert in the areas of pornography, sexual addiction, and recovery... and he's the Founder & CEO of BRAVEHEARTS... which is a faith based, mentoring centric ministry.
Prior to founding BRAVEHEARTS, Michael spent twenty years in sales and sales management positions with technology firms such as IBM, Unisys and NEC. But then his thirty-year relationship with pornography escalated into a full-blown sexual addiction that eventually cost him his marriage and family, a business partnership, countless relationships, and his reputation.
When Michael finally hit rock bottom, and was preparing to put a pistol in his mouth to end it all, he was trying to figure out what to say to his sons in the suicide note that he would leave behind. It was only then he was shocked to realize the enormous price that pornography and sexual addiction had extracted from his life.
That dark place helped him realize his desperate need for God, and he then began the difficult but redemptive process of his healing journey.
Eventually Michael founded BRAVEHEARTS, which is a faith-based non-profit organization whose mission is to lead people from sexual brokenness and sexual addiction to freedom in Christ.
Michael has written 5 books, including... Porn Nation - Conquering America's # 1 Addiction... and has made many media appearances as an expert on the issues of pornography, sexual addiction, and recovery, including 20/20, The View, CNN, CNBC, the BBC, and The 700 Club.
Michael's story is another amazing example of the powerful grace, mercy, and redemption of God!
You shall know the truth, and the truth shall set you free. John 8:32
The devil has a very powerful lie that he wants to embed in your heart and mind... and that lie is this...
I CAN'T CHANGE!
The enemy is very shrewd... and he knows that if he can get you to believe this lie... that he will have you right where he wants you.
The reason for this is because... if you believe this lie... you will essentially GIVE UP even trying to change.
And this is a trick the enemy has used... and is using... to defeat so many Christian men... as he relegates them from their status at a "WARRIOR POET" in the Kingdom of God... to the status of a "P.O.W." (PRISONER OF WAR).
Dude! You got to shake this lie off your life and soul!
You can't let the devil continue to rip you off... the way he's been ripping you off through the power of this lie!
Jesus said... "The truth will set you free." John 8:32
And the truth is this...
YOU CAN CHANGE!
Or said another way...
YOU CAN STOP LOOKING AT PORN!
YOU CAN LEARN TO CONTROL SEX INSTEAD OF BEING CONTROLLED BY SEX!
YOU CAN LEARN TO HONOR GOD WITH THE EXPRESSION OF YOUR SEXUAL GIFT!
YOU CAN BE A WHITE GLOVE IN THE MIDDLE OF A MUD PUDDLE AND NOT GET THE MUD ALL OVER YOU!
In this episode Tony continues to share 4 bible passages that PROVE you CAN change!
The devil has a very powerful lie that he wants to embed in your heart and mind... and that lie is this...
I CAN'T CHANGE!
The enemy is very shrewd... and he knows that if he can get you to believe this lie... that he will have you right where he wants you.
The reason for this is because... if you believe this lie... you will essentially GIVE UP even trying to change.
And this is a trick the enemy has used... and is using... to defeat so many Christian men... as he relegates them from their status at a "WARRIOR POET" in the Kingdom of God... to the status of a "P.O.W." (PRISONER OF WAR).
Dude! You got to shake this lie off your life and soul!
You can't let the devil continue to rip you off... the way he's been ripping you off through the power of this lie!
Jesus said... "The truth will set you free." John 8:32
And the truth is this...
YOU CAN CHANGE!
Or said another way...
YOU CAN STOP LOOKING AT PORN!
YOU CAN LEARN TO CONTROL SEX INSTEAD OF BEING CONTROLLED BY SEX!
YOU CAN LEARN TO HONOR GOD WITH THE EXPRESSION OF YOUR SEXUAL GIFT!
YOU CAN BE A WHITE GLOVE IN THE MIDDLE OF A MUD PUDDLE AND NOT GET THE MUD ALL OVER YOU!
In this episode... and the next... Tony shares 4 bible passages that PROVE you CAN change!
The first of those 4 bible passages will be explored in this episode... Colossians 3:1-10... and as you explore this passage you will learn the truth that can set you free!
* We live in a very wounded... broken... and fallen world that's full of terrible pain.
* Every person gets their share of this terrible pain. It looks different in every person's life... but everybody gets their share. There's sickness... disease... divorce... rape... murder... miscarriages... sexual abuse... physical abuse... car accidents... depression... mental illness... adultery... death... and the list goes on and on. These terrible things... and many more like them... happen in virtually every person's life in various combinations.
* In the same way a person would instinctively yank their hand away if they accidentally touched a hot stove... virtually every person instinctively tries to minimize... numb... anesthetize... eliminate... or escape the pain that happens in their heart and life. Because of this... virtually every person... whether they consciously realize it or not... is in the pain management business.
* People attempt to minimize and/or escape their pain in many different ways... and one of the primary ways that many men attempt to manage the pain in their life is through the power of their orgasm. A man's orgasm can allow him to escape what's making him feel bad... even if it's just for the several moments of intense pleasure and euphoria that his orgasm provides.
Thus the title of this episode...
Pain Management Through Orgasm
In these episodes Tony explains how he used his orgasm... for many years... in a way God never intended a man's orgasm to be used... and then goes on to discuss an incredibly important question...
If a man can no longer use his orgasm to manage the pain in his life... what should he do with his pain?
In these episodes we discover why it's so important to have a proper THEOLOGY OF PAIN... and the 15 Principles of the Theology of Pain that will enable us to manage our pain in a much healthier way.
* We live in a very wounded... broken... and fallen world that's full of terrible pain.
* Every person gets their share of this terrible pain. It looks different in every person's life... but everybody gets their share. There's sickness... disease... divorce... rape... murder... miscarriages... sexual abuse... physical abuse... car accidents... depression... mental illness... adultery... death... and the list goes on and on. These terrible things... and many more like them... happen in virtually every person's life in various combinations.
* In the same way a person would instinctively yank their hand away if they accidentally touched a hot stove... virtually every person instinctively tries to minimize... numb... anesthetize... eliminate... or escape the pain that happens in their heart and life. Because of this... virtually every person... whether they consciously realize it or not... is in the pain management business.
* People attempt to minimize and/or escape their pain in many different ways... and one of the primary ways that many men attempt to manage the pain in their life is through the power of their orgasm. A man's orgasm can allow him to escape what's making him feel bad... even if it's just for the several moments of intense pleasure and euphoria that his orgasm provides.
Thus the title of this episode... and the next...
Pain Management Through Orgasm
In these episodes Tony explains how he used his orgasm... for many years... in a way God never intended a man's orgasm to be used... and then goes on to discuss an incredibly important question...
If a man can no longer use his orgasm to manage the pain in his life... what should he do with his pain?
In these episodes we discover why it's so important to have a proper THEOLOGY OF PAIN... and the 15 Principles of the Theology of Pain that will enable us to manage our pain in a much healthier way.
From the time William was just a young boy... he knew he was "different" from all the other boys.
He felt like like he didn't fit in with the girls... and he didn't fit in with the boys.
When he was in second grade the other kids began to make fun of him... and tell him that he was "gay"... even though he didn't know what that meant.
Over the next several years William tried to like girls... because that's what he was supposed to do... but the girls rejected him over and over again... and it was so hurtful that he unconsciously began to put up a wall between him and "girls".
For some reason William always felt more comfortable with other guys than he did with girls... and although he could have friendships with guys on a personal level... in public even his friends scorned him because they didn't want to be associated with William.
When he eventually began attending college... William was lonely and almost desperate for connection with others... and he soon learned to find the attention... affection... and connection he was looking for... in exchange for the sexual intimacy so many other guys wanted from him.
Williams story is amazing... because it's another story of God's ability to heal and redeem a deeply broken person... and it's a story that stands in contradiction of a very powerful lie that exists in our culture today. The lie that says things like this...
* Once a person's gay... they have to always be gay... because it's impossible to resist or change your sexual orientation.
* It's impossible for a person who has a gay orientation to not live as a gay person.
* It would be impossible for a person who has lived as a gay man for 10 years to ever get married to a woman... and to be happily married... and to even have children.
William is living proof that a gay person does not have to continue to live as a gay person after Christ comes into their heart and their life.
9 Or do you not know that wrongdoers will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived: Neither the sexually immoral nor idolaters nor adulterers nor men who have sex with men 10 nor thieves nor the greedy nor drunkards nor slanderers nor swindlers will inherit the kingdom of God. 11 And that is what some of you were. But you were washed, you were sanctified, you were justified in the name of the Lord Jesus Christ and by the Spirit of our God. I Corinthians 6:9-11
From the time William was just a young boy... he knew he was "different" from all the other boys.
He felt like like he didn't fit in with the girls... and he didn't fit in with the boys.
When he was in second grade the other kids began to make fun of him... and tell him that he was "gay"... even though he didn't know what that meant.
Over the next several years William tried to like girls... because that's what he was supposed to do... but the girls rejected him over and over again... and it was so hurtful that he unconsciously began to put up a wall between him and "girls".
For some reason William always felt more comfortable with other guys than he did with girls... and although he could have friendships with guys on a personal level... in public even his friends scorned him because they didn't want to be associated with William.
When he eventually began attending college... William was lonely and almost desperate for connection with others... and he soon learned to find the attention... affection... and connection he was looking for... in exchange for the sexual intimacy so many other guys wanted from him.
Williams story is amazing... because it's another story of God's ability to heal and redeem a deeply broken person... and it's a story that stands in contradiction of a very powerful lie that exists in our culture today. The lie that says things like this...
* Once a person's gay... they have to always be gay... because it's impossible to resist or change your sexual orientation.
* It's impossible for a person who has a gay orientation to not live as a gay person.
* It would be impossible for a person who has lived as a gay man for 10 years to ever get married to a woman... and to be happily married... and to even have children.
William is living proof that a gay person does not have to continue to live as a gay person after Christ comes into their heart and their life.
9 Or do you not know that wrongdoers will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived: Neither the sexually immoral nor idolaters nor adulterers nor men who have sex with men 10 nor thieves nor the greedy nor drunkards nor slanderers nor swindlers will inherit the kingdom of God. 11 And that is what some of you were. But you were washed, you were sanctified, you were justified in the name of the Lord Jesus Christ and by the Spirit of our God. I Corinthians 6:9-11
Dr. Juli Slattery is a clinical psychologist, author, speaker and the President of Authentic Intimacy. Juli earned her college degree at Wheaton College, an MA in psychology from Biola University, an MS and a Doctorate degree in Clinical Psychology from Florida Institute of Technology.
From 2008-2012, Dr. Slattery served at Focus on the Family writing, teaching, and co-hosting the Focus on the Family daily radio broadcast. In 2012, she left Focus on the Family to start Authentic Intimacy, a ministry devoted to reclaiming God’s design for intimacy.
Juli is the author of ten books, host of the weekly podcast “Java with Juli”, and a member of the board of trustees for Moody Bible Institute.
Dr. Juli's books include...
(1) Rethinking Sexuality – God’s Design And Why It Matters
(2) Passion Pursuit – What Kind of Love Are You Making
(3) Sex and The Single Girl
(4) Finding The Hero In Your Husband
(5) 25 Questions You’re Afraid To Ask About Love, Sex and Intimacy
(6) Surprised by The Healer – Embracing Hope For Your Broken Story
(7) No More Headaches – Enjoying Sex & Intimacy In Marriage
(8) Pulling Back The Shades – Erotica, Intimacy and The Longings of A Woman’s Heart
(9) Beyond The Masquerade – Unveiling The Authentic You
(10) Guilt Free Motherhood – Parenting With Godly Wisdom
Through her ministry... Authentic Intimacy... Dr. Juli helps people understand the beauty of God's plan and holy design for sexual intimacy.
Among many other topics... Tony and Dr. Juli discuss the following quote from her website...
We believe that God intentionally created us as sexual beings, that every sexual choice is a spiritual choice, that sexuality is a powerful metaphor, and that Satan intentionally works to destroy the holy expression of sexuality.
Juli and her husband Mike are the parents of 3 sons; they live in Akron, Ohio.
Dr. Juli Slattery is a clinical psychologist, author, speaker and the President of Authentic Intimacy. Juli earned her college degree at Wheaton College, an MA in psychology from Biola University, an MS and a Doctorate degree in Clinical Psychology from Florida Institute of Technology.
From 2008-2012, Dr. Slattery served at Focus on the Family writing, teaching, and co-hosting the Focus on the Family daily radio broadcast. In 2012, she left Focus on the Family to start Authentic Intimacy, a ministry devoted to reclaiming God’s design for intimacy.
Juli is the author of ten books, host of the weekly podcast “Java with Juli”, and a member of the board of trustees for Moody Bible Institute.
Dr. Juli's books include...
(1) Rethinking Sexuality – God’s Design And Why It Matters
(2) Passion Pursuit – What Kind of Love Are You Making
(3) Sex and The Single Girl
(4) Finding The Hero In Your Husband
(5) 25 Questions You’re Afraid To Ask About Love, Sex and Intimacy
(6) Surprised by The Healer – Embracing Hope For Your Broken Story
(7) No More Headaches – Enjoying Sex & Intimacy In Marriage
(8) Pulling Back The Shades – Erotica, Intimacy and The Longings of A Woman’s Heart
(9) Beyond The Masquerade – Unveiling The Authentic You
(10) Guilt Free Motherhood – Parenting With Godly Wisdom
Through her ministry... Authentic Intimacy... Dr. Juli helps people understand the beauty of God's plan and holy design for sexual intimacy.
Among many other topics... Tony and Dr. Juli discuss the following quote from her website...
We believe that God intentionally created us as sexual beings, that every sexual choice is a spiritual choice, that sexuality is a powerful metaphor, and that Satan intentionally works to destroy the holy expression of sexuality.
Juli and her husband Mike are the parents of 3 sons; they live in Akron, Ohio.
In this episode Tony shares an intriguing story from I Samuel chapters 4 & 5 in the bible... and then applies that story to the topic of SEX!
In this story... the pagan Philistines defeated Israel in battle and captured the Ark of God. They brought the Ark into the temple of their pagan god... Dagon.
The next morning their huge statue of Dagon had fallen over and was laying on his face... before the Ark of God. So they stood him back up.
The next morning Dagon had fallen over again... and was laying on his face before the Ark of God... only this time his head was broken off... and his hands were broken off!
Then a great plague broke out against the people of that city... so they moved the Ark of God to another city.
When the plague broke out in that city... they moved the Ark of God. again... to a third city.
When the plague broke out in that city... they finally sent the Ark of God back to Israel!
What does this intriguing story in the bible teach us about SEX!
Well... if you listen to this episode you'll find out Tony's application.
Everyone who falls on that stone will be broken to pieces; anyone on whom it falls will be crushed. Luke 20:18
Episodes 153 & 154 of The Power of Purity Podcast were entitled... The Human Brain, Neuroplasticity & Porn Addiction.
In those 2 episodes Tony did his best to explain the connection between a man's struggle with porn... and his own brain.
As those episodes came to a close Tony promised to try to find a brain expert to interview further on this important subject... and todays episode... and the last... are the fulfillment of that promise.
Dr. Leonard Matheson is a neurorehabilitation psychologist who helps people recover from devastating trauma. He’s taught at major medical schools in North America and Europe – including 15 years as a professor and scientist at the Washington University School of Medicine in St. Louis Missouri.
In addition... Dr. Matheson was most recently an adjunct professor of counseling at Covenant Theological Seminary.
Dr. Matheson has been a consultant to several Fortune 500 companies, the Social Security Administration, the US Congress, and hundreds of rehabilitation centers and governmental agencies in the United States, Canada, and other countries.
Dr. Matheson’s has written more than 120 scientific papers… and textbook chapters in the American Medical Association’s definitive textbook entitled… Disability Evaluation... and he has written a book entitled… Your Faithful Brain.
In this fascinating interview Dr. Matheson helps us understand the powerful connection between porn addiction and the human brain... and the reality that when a man is struggling with porn... he's literally in the fight of his life... with his own brain!
In addition... Dr. Matheson helps us to understand how the Apostle Paul himself actually understood and taught the concept of neuroplasticity!
Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is—his good, pleasing and perfect will. Romans 12:2
Your Faithful Brain - Dr. Leonard Matheson
Your Faithful Brain Ignited - Dondra Agovino and Gina Birkemeier
Episodes 153 & 154 of The Power of Purity Podcast were entitled... The Human Brain, Neuroplasticity & Porn Addiction.
In those 2 episodes Tony did his best to explain the connection between a man's struggle with porn... and his own brain.
As those episodes came to a close Tony promised to try to find a brain expert to interview further on this important subject... and todays episode... and the next... are the fulfillment of that promise.
Dr. Leonard Matheson is a neurorehabilitation psychologist who helps people recover from devastating trauma. He’s taught at major medical schools in North America and Europe – including 15 years as a professor and scientist at the Washington University School of Medicine in St. Louis Missouri.
In addition... Dr. Matheson was most recently an adjunct professor of counseling at Covenant Theological Seminary.
Dr. Matheson has been a consultant to several Fortune 500 companies, the Social Security Administration, the US Congress, and hundreds of rehabilitation centers and governmental agencies in the United States, Canada, and other countries.
Dr. Matheson’s has written more than 120 scientific papers… and textbook chapters in the American Medical Association’s definitive textbook entitled… Disability Evaluation... and he has written a book entitled… Your Faithful Brain.
In this fascinating interview Dr. Matheson helps us understand the powerful connection between porn addiction and the human brain... and the reality that when a man is struggling with porn... he's literally in the fight of his life... with his own brain!
In addition... Dr. Matheson helps us to understand how the Apostle Paul himself actually understood and taught the concept of neuroplasticity!
Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is—his good, pleasing and perfect will. Romans 12:2
Your Faithful Brain - Dr. Leonard Matheson
Your Faithful Brain Ignited - Dondra Agovino and Gina Birkemeier
Belah Rose is a wife... a mom... an author... an intimacy coach... and the producer of the Delight Your Marriage Podcast!
Through the Delight Your Marriage Podcast... Blah interviews guests... and shares information and wisdom on a variety of topics including... relationships... marriage... intimacy... sensuality... sexuality... femininity... self-image... and self-improvement.
Belah's heart to help women in the areas that so many women struggle with... was born from the deepest hurt... pain... and failures of her own life.
* A first marriage that included emotional, physical, spiritual, and sexual abuse
* A divorce
* Doubts and disappointments in God
* A period of significant promiscuity
* An unexpected pregnancy out of wedlock
* A husband who wasn't interested in spiritual things
* Guilt
* Regret
* Loneliness
* Shame
Belah is an amazing example that reveals God's incredible ability to heal and redeem deeply broken people... and deeply broken marriages!
By God’s IMMENSE grace, I transformed my past and started teaching Christian women how they can do the same: I see them feel powerful and sexy and become fully whole in their marriage and honor their divinely feminine essence to witness their husband transform into the man they have wished and prayed that he would become. Belah Rose
In this episode... among other things... Tony and Belah talk about "Masculine Sex" and "Feminine Sex"... and how these two aspects of sex complete God's design for sex within marriage.
Belah Rose is a wife... a mom... an author... an intimacy coach... and the producer of the Delight Your Marriage Podcast!
Through the Delight Your Marriage Podcast... Blah interviews guests... and shares information and wisdom on a variety of topics including... relationships... marriage... intimacy... sensuality... sexuality... femininity... self-image... and self-improvement.
Belah's heart to help women in the areas that so many women struggle with... was born from the deepest hurt... pain... and failures of her own life.
* A first marriage that included emotional, physical, spiritual, and sexual abuse
* A divorce
* Doubts and disappointments in God
* A period of significant promiscuity
* An unexpected pregnancy out of wedlock
* A husband who wasn't interested in spiritual things
* Guilt
* Regret
* Loneliness
* Shame
Belah is an amazing example that reveals God's incredible ability to heal and redeem deeply broken people... and deeply broken marriages!
By God’s IMMENSE grace, I transformed my past and started teaching Christian women how they can do the same: I see them feel powerful and sexy and become fully whole in their marriage and honor their divinely feminine essence to witness their husband transform into the man they have wished and prayed that he would become. Belah Rose
Wade & Rachel Anderson have an amazing story!
Wade had struggled with pornography his entire life... and after almost 20 years of marriage to Rachel... he finally crossed the "flesh barrier"... and became involved in an affair that lasted for 2 years.
After deciding that he was going to leave his wife and family to pursue his relationship with this other women... Wade and Rachel came to a fateful night.
Rachel asked Wade... "Are you involved with another person?"
Wade responded... "We need to sit down and talk."
After finally telling his wife the truth... she responded by telling him two different things that had a profound impact on his hard heart.
First, she said... "I'll never leave you... no matter what."
And second, she said... "If you're going to leave us... you have to be the one to tell our kids."
In a mystery... God used those two statements to hit Wade like a ton of bricks... because he fully expected for Rachel to kick him out of their house immediately.
Later... he wrote in a letter to Tony... "I thought she would surely kick me out. Instead the Holy Spirit gave her a gift to forgive me and show me amazing grace. I was so taken back that I became a prisoner of Christ."
Wade & Rachel have now been in counseling for the past year... and although it's been a difficult journey... they've made significant progress on the Healing Path that God has intended for their hearts... lives... and marriage.
Wade & Rachel have put together a "healing package" that they now offer to other couples who find themselves in a similar place of brokenness and despair. That package includes the following items:
* A personal letter of encouragement from Wade & Rachel
* A bible
* The business card of a local counselor
* The book - Shattered Vows - Debra Laaser
* The book - Keep Walking - Lynn Marie Cherry
* The book - How To Help Your Spouse Heal From Your Affair - Linda MacDonald
* The book - Wild At Heart - John Eldredge
* A personal journal to write in
Wade & Rachel are living proof that God is still in the business of healing deeply broken people... and deeply broken marriages. Be blessed and encouraged as you listen to their story!
Wade & Rachel Anderson have an amazing story!
Wade struggled with pornography his entire life... and after almost 20 years of marriage to Rachel... he finally crossed the "flesh barrier"... and became involved in an affair that lasted for 2 years.
After deciding that he was going to leave his wife and family to pursue his relationship with the other women... Wade and Rachel came to a fateful night.
Rachel asked Wade... "Are you involved with another person?"
Wade responded... "We need to sit down and talk."
After finally telling his wife the truth... she responded by telling him two different things that had a profound impact on his hard heart.
First, she said... "I'll never leave you... no matter what."
And second, she said... "If you're going to leave us... you have to be the one to tell our kids."
In a mystery... God used those two statements to hit Wade like a ton of bricks... because he fully expected for Rachel to kick him out of their house immediately.
Later... he wrote in a letter to Tony... "I thought she would surely kick me out. Instead the Holy Spirit gave her a gift to forgive me and show me amazing grace. I was so taken back that I became a prisoner of Christ."
Wade & Rachel have now been in counseling for the past year... and although it's been a difficult journey... they've made significant progress on the Healing Path that God has intended for their hearts... lives... and marriage.
Wade & Rachel have put together a "healing package" that they now offer to other couples who find themselves in a similar place of brokenness and despair. That package includes the following items:
* A personal letter of encouragement from Wade & Rachel
* A bible
* The business card of a local counselor
* The book - Shattered Vows - Debra Laaser
* The book - Keep Walking - Lynn Marie Cherry
* The book - How To Help Your Spouse Heal From Your Affair - Linda MacDonald
* The book - Wild At Heart - John Eldredge
* A personal journal to write in
Wade & Rachel are living proof that God is still in the business of healing deeply broken people... and deeply broken marriages. Be blessed and encouraged as you listen to their story!
Tony recently received a letter from a man asking for help because his wife doesn't want sex.
Of course... this creates great difficulty in this man's heart and life... because he does want to have sex with his wife.
In the letter... this man explains...
* That his wife has very little desire for sex.
* That when she does have sex with her husband... she does it for him... even though she doesn't really enjoy it.
* How difficult it is for him to have sexual desire when his wife isn't interested.
* How he doesn't just want sex... but he wants a deeper connection and intimacy with his wife.
* How he longs for his wife to "want" to have sex with him... and not just offer him "duty sex".
Through this letter... this man is asking for some help and guidance on how to manage this difficult issue in his marriage.
In response... Tony shares 8 principles intended to help this couple with this challenge.
What should a couple do when there's a significant disparity between their levels of sexual desire?
What should a couple do when one person wants sex more than the other person?
In the third episode of this 3 part series... Your Wife Doesn't Want Sex... Tony shares principles 7 & 8 of his response.
Tony recently received a letter from a man asking for help because his wife doesn't want sex.
Of course... this creates great difficulty in this man's heart and life... because he does want to have sex with his wife.
In the letter... this man explains...
* That his wife has very little desire for sex.
* That when she does have sex with her husband... she does it for him... even though she doesn't really enjoy it.
* How difficult it is for him to have sexual desire when his wife isn't interested.
* How he doesn't just want sex... but he wants a deeper connection and intimacy with his wife.
* How he longs for his wife to "want" to have sex with him... and not just offer him "duty sex".
Through this letter... this man is asking for some help and guidance on how to manage this difficult issue in his marriage.
In response... Tony shares 8 principles intended to help this couple with this challenge.
What should a couple do when there's a significant disparity between their levels of sexual desire?
What should a couple do when one person wants sex more than the other person?
In the second episode of this 3 part series... Your Wife Doesn't Want Sex... Tony shares principles 4 - 6 of his response.
Tony recently received a letter from a man asking for "HELP"... because his wife doesn't want sex.
In response.. Tony recorded 3 episodes of The Power of Purity Podcast in order to speak to this mans questions and concerns.
The first of those 3 episodes was Episode 158... and after publishing that episode... Tony received another letter... only this time from a woman who was responding to that episode.
At the beginning of her letter... this woman writes...
I guess you could call this letter... "HELP! From The WIFE who doesn't want sex!"
In this episode of the podcast... Tony shares that woman's heartfelt letter... as she describes what it's like to be a woman who struggles with diminished sexual desire... what that looks like in her marriage... and how it affects her relationship with her husband.
In the context of her letter... this woman makes several very important points... and asks some very important questions.
Among others... these include...
* The issue of a woman feeling "pressured" by her husband to have more sex.
* The issue of the kind of sex a woman should be having with her husband.
* The issue of a woman who is willing to have sex with her husband because he desires sex... but she doesn't really desire sex.
* The issue of a man appreciating his wife... not just because of sex... but because of who she is as a person.
* And the issue what a woman can do in order to stimulate higher levels of sexual desire within herself.
If you're a guy... hold on to your hat... because you're about to get an inside glimpse of what a woman who doesn't want sex is really struggling with!
Tony recently received a letter from a man asking for help because his wife doesn't want sex.
Of course... this creates great difficulty in this man's heart and life... because he does want to have sex with his wife.
In the letter... this man explains...
* That his wife has very little desire for sex.
* That when she does have sex with her husband... she does it for him... even though she doesn't really enjoy it.
* How difficult it is for him to have sexual desire when his wife isn't interested.
* How he doesn't just want sex... but he wants a deeper connection and intimacy with his wife.
* How he longs for his wife to "want" to have sex with him... and not just offer him "duty sex".
Through this letter... this man is asking for some help and guidance on how to manage this difficult issue in his marriage.
In response... Tony shares 8 principles intended to help this couple with this challenge.
What should a couple do when there's a significant disparity between their levels of sexual desire?
What should a couple do when one person wants sex more than the other person?
In the first episode of this 3 part series... Your Wife Doesn't Want Sex... Tony shares the first 3 principles of his response.
Are you ready to hear an amazing story of God's ability to change the human heart and life?
Ephesians 4:19-24 speak of God's ability to transform a person who has given themselves over to sensuality and all types of impurity... to a person who is now created to be like God in true righteousness and holiness.
It's an amazing metamorphous as God enables a person to TAKE OFF that which is OLD... and to PUT ON that which is NEW... through Christ Jesus.
In this episode... and the next... Tony interviews Meredith Seithel Mitelstadt who is the founder of Tigerlili Resources.
Meredith has an amazing story... and she truly is a trophy of God's grace!
* Meredith became highly sexualized as a young lady.
* This led to a significant level of promiscuity in her young life.
* This led to her working as a bar tender in a strip club.
* This led to her dancing at strip clubs.
* And this eventually led her into a life of prostitution.
Through this amazing story of redemption... like that of Mary Magdalene... you'll hear how God is still in the business of redeeming deeply broken women... and learn how God is now using a former prostitute... to rescue other prostitutes... and introduce them to the God who heals and redeems!
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